Wednesday, August 03, 2005

Experience No Longer Needed

Just when you get really good at something, you don't have to do it anymore. For instance, I am an efficient diaper-changer. When the current daycare babies are no longer in my care, my diaper changing days will be pretty much over. All that practice and boom! No more need for my skills.

Years ago, I was very good at wallowing in my grief over infertility. I filled pages of journals with morose "why me?" sorts of writings. I could turn any situation into a cryfest--a dinner with friends and a pregnant teen turns up? My face would fall and I'd cry all the way home. I'm good at grief and feeling sorry for myself. Practiced and nurtured, one might say.

In high school, I excelled in all my studies, but math came especially easy to me. I never took another math course again after I graduated. My math skills are not just rusty--they're like a stripped and stolen car, abandoned and now overgrown with blackberry brambles in a ditch somewhere. I remember algebra faintly, like a dream you can't quite invoke when you wake up.

So, what are you good at that you never do anymore?

(Though, life is cyclical and I am not stymied by the math my boys are learning. And being a Grief Expert helps me empathize with people as they cope with loss--and I'm sure I'll grieve more as my time on earth grows shorter. As for diaper changing? Someday there will be grandchildren. At least one can hope that I'm changing grandbabies and not my mother.)


Blogger Gina said...

I actually used to be quite handy on a computer. I used Unix and work, and finally got around to knowing how the heck to use it. I also used Exel a lot, and now I have forgotten almost all the functions I used to do daily.

I used to be able to sound like I knew what I was talking about. I could bs my way through a presentation to medical doctors and sound perfect. Now I just kind of wander around with a dazed expression and try not to talk about potty training all the time.

11:22 PM  
Blogger Angi said...

Diaper changing here.

I'm also good at being pregnant. But alas, those days are gone for good. Unless of course, God gives me the miracle baby I prayed for for so long. he COULD make that little band holding my tubes closed fall off....

Oh, I used to be good at roller skating, but for some reason, with the added weight over the years, my center of gravity changed...

5:50 AM  
Blogger Smoov said...

I am good at beung pregnant and having babies! I have no issues and textbook deliveries. But I don't be doing that anymore.

I am also good at fishing, which I never do, and shooting a rifle.

7:06 AM  
Blogger Beth said...

wow, Mel, how depressing! I can't think of anything used to be good at!! :) well, except maybe driving a stick shift car. we don't have one any more!! I'm still a pro at changing diapersbut I'm hoping those days will be over soon!

7:21 AM  
Blogger Judy said...

Just when I had perfected all the Sesame Street voices, my kids went off to school. I could say 'Elmo got new shoes!' better than Elmo could. I know all the words to 'Lady Bug Picnic'.

I was good at pencil sketchs of kids. I used to entertain my kids, the neighbor kids, my Sunday school class kids by drawing them. Totally useless in my present life.

And, I was GREAT at creative answers to 'Why can't I?' This is useless, well, because nobody asks me that anymore. When did that stop? Why didn't I journal about THAT momentious day?

And once, long ago, I was good at kick-ball.

7:27 AM  
Blogger Donna said...

Don't laugh...I was a really good bowler and even aspired to be a pro at one time, but living life in bowling alleys just didn't appeal to me. I don't bowl anymore because I'm afraid I'll want to go back to it. I'm assuming my skills are gone.

7:56 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

I used to hula hoop like a champ. I won several hulahoop competitions. Now I can't keep it going for more than a few seconds. But I haven't tried often, either. I also used to rock at frisbee. It was the only thing remotely athletic at which I could beat the tough kids. I wonder if I'm still any good???

8:39 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Darling said...

I know all the songs on Barney and nobody even listens to Barney anymore. What a waste of my superb talent.

I used to be a good soprano singer. Now I cant hit a high note if you paid me.

12:19 PM  
Blogger Christi said...

Lots of things I used to be good at too; you know, I've never thought about this until you posted it, but it's so true.

BTW, I finally got you on my blogroll and my blogroll added to my site!

1:08 PM  
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1:08 PM  
Blogger Kim said...

I used to be a very good tennis player, but once the kids came along, my time on the court was pretty much over.

1:32 PM  
Blogger Jan said...

The French horn. I loved solos and contests. I was a French horn performance major in college. Now I can't get a gig to save my life! Sigh.

Also, ice skating, although I was never near professional status.

3:31 PM  
Blogger Diddy-Win said...

I used to be really, really really good (almost perfect...) at being a parent...and then I had kids and don't know WHAT the heck I am doing!

12:47 PM  
Blogger Tina said...

I don't even know anymore!

9:56 AM  

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